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Don’t bring a word processor to a spell-casting 🪄

August 2, 2022 1 Comment

Dear friends,

My best and latest rejection for my novel landed in my inbox this morning. No matter how reconciled and chill I tell myself I am, a rejection always feels like being kicked in the chest by something large and well-trained in the art of kicking.

I sat down with my beloveds and we talked, and eventually I realized it’s time to change tack.

So I have a new mission. It goes something like don’t bring a knife to a gunfight, except in my case it’s more like, Don’t bring a word processor to a spell-casting.

It’s time to bring the magic. I’m going the full woo on publishing this book now.

What do I mean “the full woo”? I’m going to completely leave cultural assumptions behind about publishing, and treat this the way I would any other magical pursuit. I’m actually pretty good at magic. I’m surprised it’s taken until now to realize that’s what’s called for.

This article originally appeared on Rowan’s Wild Inventures substack newsletter. To subscribe and get all Rowan’s posts in your inbox, head over to Wild Inventures on substack now. 

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  1. Mary Ann says

    August 16, 2022 at 6:52 pm

    Does this mean you’ll be self- publishing ?
    I was secretly hoping you’d do this all along.
    The world needs your book.
    Start your own publishing company and go for it!

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